在我们做的事情当中,有许多都受到感情的影响。由于 我们的感情可为我们带来伟大的成就,也可能使我们失败, 所以,我们必须了解,要控制自己的感情,首先应该做的是,了解对我们有刺激作用的感情有哪些?我们可将这些感 情分为七种消极和七种积极的情绪。
Much of what we do is directed by our feelings.Since our feelings can lift us to great achievements or hurl us down to defeat,we owe it to ourselves to understand and control them.The first step is to identify the feelings which motivate us.There are seven negative emotions and seven positive.
七种消极情绪为:
There seven negative emotions are: 七种积极情绪为:
The seven positive emotions are:
1.恐惧 Fear
2.仇恨 Hatred
3.愤怒 Anger
4.贪婪 Greed
5.嫉妒 Jealousy
6.报复 Revenge
7.迷信 Superstition 1.爱 Love
2.性 Sex压抑的心情
3.希望 Hope
5.同情 Sympathy
6.乐观 Optimism
7.忠诚 Loyalty
以上14种情绪,正是你人生计划成功或失败的关键, 他们的组合,既能意义非凡,又能够混乱无章,完全由你决定。
These fourteen emotions are the letters of the alphabet with which you will write your plan for success or failure.They can be combined meaningfully or chaotically.
上面每一种情绪都和心态有关,这也就是为什么我一直强调心态的原因。这些情绪实际上就是个人心态的反映,而心态是你可以组织、引导和完全掌控的对象。为了达到组织、引导和掌控的目的,你必须控制你的思想,你必须对思想中产生的各种情绪抱持着警觉性,并且视其对心态的影响是好是坏而接受或拒绝。乐观会增强你的信心和弹性,而仇根会使你失去宽容和正义感。如果你无法控制自己情绪,你的一生将会因为不时的情绪冲动而受害。
Each emotion is related to mental attitude,and that is why I have placed so much stress on the character of ones mental attitude.These emotions are nothing but reflections of your mental attitude,which you can organize,guide,and completely command.To do so,you must take control of your present there,and embrace or reject them on the basis of their contribution to your mental attitude.Optemism will increase your confidence and flexibility;h
atred will undermine your tolerance and keen sense of justice.If you do not take this control,you are condemning yourself to an entire life buffeted by the winds of emotional whim.
如果你正在努力控制情绪的话,可难备一张图表,写下你每天体验并且控制情绪的次数,这种方法可使你了解情绪发作的频繁性和它的力量。一旦你发现刺激情绪的因素时,便可采取行动除掉这些因素,或把它们出来充分利用。
If you find yourself struggling to gain this control,compile a chart on which you note every day the number of times you experience and act on an emotion.Make a not of circumstances which inspire the emotion. This will give you tremendous insight into the frequency and power of your emotions.Onve you know which forces trigger your emotions,you can act to eliminate them or to seek them out and use them.
将你追求成功的欲望,转变成一股强烈的执着意念,并 且照手实现你的明确目标,这是使你学得情绪控制能力的两 个基本要件,这两个基本要件之间,具有相辅相成的关系, 而其中一个要件获得进展时,另一要件也会有所进展。
Building you desire for success into a burning obsession and embarking on your definite major purpose are the cornerstones of your efforts to gain emotional control.Each strengthens the other,and progress with one will mean progress everywhere.
正义感
A keen Sense of justice
除非你能以公正的态度对待他人,否则即无法培养出吸引入的个性,而且也无法达到明确目标,正义感的一项不可或缺的根本要素,就是“有意的诚实”。
Unless you deal justly with others you cannot hope either to cultivate an attractive personality or to succeed in your definite major purpose.The essential component of a keen sense of justice is a dedication to intentional honesty.
许多人把诚实当做是一种权宜之计,但由于这种诚实态度弹性太大,致使它可能会被扭曲成谋求自己利益的一种手 段。在培养坦白的说话态度时,你就已经在实践有意的诚实 方面,跨出了重要的一步;你必须坚持这种诚实美德,并且无论是否会为你带来立即的好处都要实
践它。
Many people are honest for the sake of expediency, but this kind of honesty is so flexible that it can be contorted to serve in any situation which furthers their interests.By cultivating frankness of speech,you are already taking an important step in practicing intentional honesty;you must adhere to that honesty so closely that you practice it under and circumstance,whether or not it promises you any immediate gain.
即使正义感无法使你抓住每一次的获利的机会,但它却 能为你带来下列的实际好处。
Even if a keen sense of justice prevents you from seizing every opportunity, it carries with it a host of practical benefits:
1.它为你建立起信心的基础;没有了信心你将无法培养出吸引人的个性。
It establishes the basis of confidence,without which you cannot have an attractive personality
2.它建立起深具魅力的诚挚和健全的性格。
It builds a fundamentally sincere and sound character,which by itself is a powerfully attractive trait
3.它不仅会吸引他人的注意,同时还提供获得真正而 是永久不变之个人利益的机会。
It not only attracts people but offers opportunities for real and lasting personal gain
4.它使你培养出自立和自重精神。
It builds your sense of self-reliance and self-respect
5.它强化你的道德良知,并因而使你的行动更为迅速, 因为此时你的动机和欲望比以往更加清晰。
It strengthens your relationship with your conscience and thus allows you to act more promptly since your motives and desires are clearer
6.它吸引值得你交往的朋友并且击败你的对手。
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